A woman has shared her unconventional approach to maintaining a successful marriage, revealing that she allows her husband to sleep with other women.
Monica, a 37-year-old stay-at-home wife, opened up about her unique relationship in an interview with the YouTube channel Love Don’t Judge.
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She explained that she and her husband, John, have established an arrangement where he is free to pursue relationships with other women outside their marriage, because she believes it makes him happy.
Monica, who says “98%” of her day revolves around her husband, believes this setup has been key to their six-year marriage.
“I’ve always had a submissive side since I can remember, and I’ve always been drawn to assertive and dominant males,” she said, adding that John’s confidence and guitar playing initially attracted her to him.
In their “traditional marriage,” John takes on the role of decision-maker, even choosing Monica’s outfits each day.
“It makes me feel more confident and ‘hot’ knowing that he selected my outfit for the day,” Monica explained.
Monica shared that her love language is making her husband feel good by fulfilling her role as a traditional housewife.
“I enjoy being a traditional housewife because that’s my love language,” she said. “It’s not like I’m a hopeless little girl. It’s just he’s assertive, and I like that in a man.”
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The couple’s dynamic has drawn attention, particularly their arrangement allowing John to sleep with other women, though they insist this is only a “very small part” of their relationship.
John explained his perspective, saying: “It’s a luxury I have that probably most guys wish they had, just because of genetic programming. If you look at all the other mammals, how they do it, typically the alpha male gets to bang all the females.”
For Monica, the open nature of their marriage doesn’t diminish her sense of security.
“I feel like, as a female, I have a different view on sex than a male does. For a guy, it’s just a fun thing. I know in my heart that he loves me because he comes home to me and takes really good care of me,” she said.
John believes this arrangement contributes to a more relaxed and fulfilling marriage.
“I think it just makes for a much more relaxed relationship because there’s nothing in my life that I desire that I can’t have. And I think that makes me a better husband,” he said.
However, not everyone in Monica’s life is supportive of their unconventional relationship.
She revealed that some of her childhood friends have expressed concerns, telling her that she’s “lost [her] dignity as a woman” and warning her against having children.
Monica remains unfazed by the criticism, saying: “I can see how people that don’t know us might think, ‘oh, that’s not healthy,’ or ‘that’s bad,’ but I think if you’re a good person and you’re with someone you really, really love and you’re soulmates, it’s a whole different thing.”
Despite the controversy, Monica is confident in her relationship with John and sees no reason why they won’t continue their arrangement for years to come.
“I love my marriage and I love him, and I don’t think there’s anything stopping us from living like this always,” she says.
The couple’s story has sparked a debate about non-traditional relationships, but for Monica and John, the key to their happiness lies in understanding each other’s needs and embracing their own unique version of a happy marriage.
Featured image credit: Kenji Lau/Getty
October 8, 24
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Woman reveals why she lets her husband sleep with other women
By James Kay
A woman has shared her unconventional approach to maintaining a successful marriage, revealing that she allows her husband to sleep with other women.
Monica, a 37-year-old stay-at-home wife, opened up about her unique relationship in an interview with the YouTube channel Love Don’t Judge.
She explained that she and her husband, John, have established an arrangement where he is free to pursue relationships with other women outside their marriage, because she believes it makes him happy.
Monica, who says “98%” of her day revolves around her husband, believes this setup has been key to their six-year marriage.
“I’ve always had a submissive side since I can remember, and I’ve always been drawn to assertive and dominant males,” she said, adding that John’s confidence and guitar playing initially attracted her to him.
In their “traditional marriage,” John takes on the role of decision-maker, even choosing Monica’s outfits each day.
“It makes me feel more confident and ‘hot’ knowing that he selected my outfit for the day,” Monica explained.
Monica shared that her love language is making her husband feel good by fulfilling her role as a traditional housewife.
“I enjoy being a traditional housewife because that’s my love language,” she said. “It’s not like I’m a hopeless little girl. It’s just he’s assertive, and I like that in a man.”
The couple’s dynamic has drawn attention, particularly their arrangement allowing John to sleep with other women, though they insist this is only a “very small part” of their relationship.
John explained his perspective, saying: “It’s a luxury I have that probably most guys wish they had, just because of genetic programming. If you look at all the other mammals, how they do it, typically the alpha male gets to bang all the females.”
For Monica, the open nature of their marriage doesn’t diminish her sense of security.
“I feel like, as a female, I have a different view on sex than a male does. For a guy, it’s just a fun thing. I know in my heart that he loves me because he comes home to me and takes really good care of me,” she said.
John believes this arrangement contributes to a more relaxed and fulfilling marriage.
“I think it just makes for a much more relaxed relationship because there’s nothing in my life that I desire that I can’t have. And I think that makes me a better husband,” he said.
However, not everyone in Monica’s life is supportive of their unconventional relationship.
She revealed that some of her childhood friends have expressed concerns, telling her that she’s “lost [her] dignity as a woman” and warning her against having children.
Monica remains unfazed by the criticism, saying: “I can see how people that don’t know us might think, ‘oh, that’s not healthy,’ or ‘that’s bad,’ but I think if you’re a good person and you’re with someone you really, really love and you’re soulmates, it’s a whole different thing.”
Despite the controversy, Monica is confident in her relationship with John and sees no reason why they won’t continue their arrangement for years to come.
“I love my marriage and I love him, and I don’t think there’s anything stopping us from living like this always,” she says.
The couple’s story has sparked a debate about non-traditional relationships, but for Monica and John, the key to their happiness lies in understanding each other’s needs and embracing their own unique version of a happy marriage.
Featured image credit: Kenji Lau/Getty
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People are defending a mom for going on ‘date night’ with her 12-year-old son
By Nasima Khatun
People have banded around to defend a mother who goes on “date nights” with her 12-year-old son.
Now there’s nothing that gets the internet riled faster than seeing how other parents choose to raise their children and the latest perpetrator is none other than Melissa Ann Marie who took to Instagram to talk about how she spends time with her son.
In the video, the 31-year-old opened up about the fact that she was taking her young boy on monthly “dates” so that he knows how to treat a woman well when he’s older.
“GRWM [Get ready with me] for a date with my boy,” she captioned the video, which showed her curling her hair, before giving her followers a glimpse of what goes on during their time together.
“Basically you give them an allowance ($50) and they take you out on a date,” she continued, doubling down on the message in the video. “The idea is you are prepping them for how to take a girl out on a date in the future so they aren’t completely lost when the time comes. So you help them along the way with how to plan and execute a date and you teach them basic etiquette and manners.”
She also rounded up the things her little one learned on the most recent date including opening the doors for his date, not walking ahead of them and how to get creative and thoughtful with not a lot of money to spend.
Opinions about the move were very mixed, with hundreds of people taking to the comments to leave their opinion on the matter.
“Kinda weird tbh,” wrote one user while another added: “Why do we call it a date? It’s so nasty. Dating is for the purpose of marriage. It isn’t but sounds like grooming. Just say ‘I give him $50 and he gets to take me to do something fun that he chooses.’ Dating your kid. Yikes.”
A third also commented: “She’s gonna get pi**ed when he grows up and starts dating other women instead of her.”
However, not everyone was against the idea.
“Someone’s daughter is going to be very appreciative that you did this,” this person wrote.
“Ugh, My heart. Good job mama,” another praised.
And this user also added: “This is so smart! Props to you for taking the initiative because as females, we know that the world needs more masculine men for generations to come.”
In an interview with TODAY, the mom hit back against the backlash, doubling down on the fact that this is a date and the use of that particular word is appropriate for the context.
“We are practicing for a date… I want to raise him to be respectful“ she said. “I’ve had my fair share of experiences with men … I know what women want and look for in a partner.”
Melissa added that those who don’t understand why she introduced this monthly tradition must lack “healthy, open communication” with their children.
“A lot of people don’t know what it’s like to have a healthy, open communication system with a parent,” she told the outlet. “My son and I talk about everything.”
The now-single mom has been on a total of five dates with her 12-year-old.
“We should be raising our boys to be strong men who respect women and treat them well,” she added. “If not me, then who is going to do it?”
Each to their own!
